Day 27: Conversation Filled with Grace  

"Let your conversation always be gracious." —Colossians 4:6  

What do you say about your husband to others? Are you complimentary or do you put him down? Here’s a way to find out – ask yourself:

If the only things my friends and family knew about my husband came through the filter of my words about him, what would they think about his character?

The gospel accounts of the Apostle Peter tell us he often spoke before thinking about the consequences of his words. He denied the Savior! After the resurrection, we do not see Jesus speaking ill of him, but rather asking Peter a crucial question three times, one for each denial: “Do you love me?”

Remember, “love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). Grace in our conversations uses sweet, kind and encouraging words, words that build up, no matter if you are in public or at home.

Every audience is an opportunity to use words that heal or words that wound. Critical words have a way of taking wings and going to the person they wound. Would you want your spouse to hear your jokes, jibes and putdowns? What good qualities could you praise instead?

Focus today on how you represent your husband in your home, your church, and your community. With the Spirit’s help, you can speak grace about him and to him. If there is a true problem in your marriage, seek out a pastor or Christian counselor who will be able to help you sort out past hurts and lead you to a godly resolution.

TRY THIS: Remember what attracted you to your husband way back when? Try using this image and look for ways to slip in a good word for your spouse. Present him in a strong, positive manner. You may have to curb a habit of correcting him in front of others. Your friends and family will appreciate your kindness and restraint, and thank God that someone like you is in his corner.

A WIFE’S PRAYER: Dearest Jesus, forgive me for being so quick to gravitate toward harmful conversation about my husband. This indicates sin is at the door of my heart even as I try to reveal his shortcomings. Teach me how to use words of grace and kindness to praise his strengths, and help me refuse to betray his sin and weakness to others. Lord, deal with me as you dealt with Peter, in loving concern, as I trust you to deal with my husband’s shortcomings accordingly. In your holy name, Amen.

In the hour of trial, Jesus, plead for me
Lest by base denial I unworthy be.
When you see me waver, With a look recall,
Nor for fear or favor Ever let me fall. CW 116 v.1